Let’s get actionable. First, drop the baby voice. Adults with disabilities are adults. Talk to them like you’d talk to a friend—about weather, bad TV, or that overpriced avocado toast.
The “person-first” vs. “identity-first” debate is real, but here’s a shortcut: some people prefer “person with autism,” others say “autistic person.” Just mirror what they use. It’s like pronouns—simple respect. Fun fact: the Deaf community often capitalizes “Deaf” to signal cultural identity, much like we do with ethnicities.
Accessibility Isn’t a Favor; It’s a Vibe
Ever tried to open a door while holding coffee, a phone, and your keys? That’s a tiny taste of life without universal design. Ramps, captions, and clear signage help everyone—parents with strollers, tourists with suitcases, your grandma after hip surgery. It’s called the curb-cut effect: something designed for a wheelchair user ends up benefiting cyclists, delivery drivers, and skateboarders.
At a party? Don’t crouch to talk to someone in a wheelchair unless you want a sore back and a weird angle. Instead, pull up a chair and sit at their eye level. That’s manners, not optics. And please, don’t pet a service dog. That fluffy hero is working. A distraction can literally put their human in danger.